You Already Know

You already know. 

“Should I give that guy another chance or just let it go?”

“Should I start that business or just continue my safe job?”

“Should I eat another piece of brownie or put it back in the fridge?

 (and hide it from my boyfriend because otherwise it will disappear in no time)”

YOU ALREADY KNOW.

Whenever I speak to a friend about such and many more dilemma’s, I learned to say:  “You already know.” 

We don’t really need our friends to give us advice, because our best advice is coming from within us. Of course it’s great to have friends to discuss things with and often they give us advice that makes us realize what we already knew all along. Again, the truth is: You already know. 

For many of us it’s hard to know what we already know. We are influenced by so many things on a daily basis that it’s hard to hear our heart's voice. 

“I’ve been bullied in primary school and made to believe that if I do things differently, they will not be accepted.” 

“My friends all say that the guy I’m dating isn’t good enough for me, but I don’t know what I feel.”

“My parents think I should quit my business and find a job instead so I can live a stable life.” 

“Don’t be so lazy, just do the work!”

“No one wants to hear my story, so why should I share anything.” 

Limiting beliefs, judgement from others or the mean voice in our own head, well-meant advice from our friends and parents, or our own emotions. They all create a barrier of bullsh*t that blocks what are heart is saying. Limiting beliefs are the worst foundation for our decision making. 

“Emotions scream, intuition whispers” is what one of my coaches once told me. How I understood this is that I need to get very quiet in order to hear what my heart has to say. 

And that is what I did. I took a step back from busy life and turned inwards. Through yoga, meditation and self love - basically everything I was drawn towards - and my mind became quiet. 

Saying the sentence “you already know” to myself opened a whole different way of thinking. It doesn’t mean I can look into the future and know whether or not I’m meant to marry the guy. But I can know that I like to spend time with him now. And that is all we need to know.

It becomes such a powerful tool that makes us independent from the opinions of others. We are meant to live our own lives and only we know what is best for us. 

You already know.

The rest will figure itself out.